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A Very Worthwhile Experience
For some time Queenie’s funeral was constantly on my mind. She was a lady who was so warm and lovable, who loved people and disliked being alone. I felt upset that after her funeral service we all walked out and left her awaiting cremation. My reluctance to go and not know what would happen to her at her cremation was strong. At that time I knew nothing about the procedure and at the wake I heard some horrible and conflicting stories.

So I decided to seek true information. I phoned the sexton of several crematoriums asking to be allowed to watch the procedure. In the early 1950’s this was considered morbid and most unusual, so I had no success. My frustration was told to a friend Marjory who said, “Are you sure you really want to do this?”
“Definitely,” I replied.
“Well……” she said, “I know the sexton at Remuera. Would you like me to phone him?”
“Oh if you would, that would be really great,” I said.

This she did and a meeting with the sexton was arranged for me at the crematorium. He asked if I was sure I really wanted this and why. Eventually I was taken to the door of the space where the coffins come down from the above funeral service area onto a very tall trolley on wheels.

The sexton pointed to the ovens and explained that they are heated to a set heat, and then the coffins are put in. He was expecting me to leave then, but I asked to see the whole procedure.

So I waited and saw the switches at the back of the ovens. Then I watched a coffin come gently down and rest on the trolley which was pushed over to the heated oven, pushed in the the door firmly closed. The heat was intense and I saw the gas flames leaping inside the oven through the door. As we were talking, I saw an operator move to a little trap door in the oven and quickly look inside.

I asked if I could also do that but I can’t remember for sure whether he allowed me to do so. However, I do have a firm memory of it - maybe from what he told me - I’m not sure. He showed me some ashes, very carefully named and ready for their casket to be given to relatives. There were no solid bone pieces, just dust.

I felt very privileged to be allowed to witness this and I left feeling really happy that my experience had put my mind to rest.

Blessings to you Queenie.

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